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During that time. She only come for money briefly and rushed out. What am I doing wrong.? We live in another country and I recently had to leave to change our visa status. So she said same thing over a month ago and I respect that. We use to share bank accounts and a little while ago my husband got his own bank acct. What do I have to acknowledge in order for me to understand how she expects me to say or do or act. I could feel your sadness and dismay when I read it. Ive thought about getting therapy for just myself due to depression. I feel its probably a good thing for him to be in there right now. Let me draw a comparison: It reminds me of bulimia: You get to eat and then you throw it up. Going out for a bike ride is another great idea for your first date because it gets you both active and outside of the house. My boyfriend was there for me the entire time, but after I recovered from my depression he just isnt the same anymore with me. So much i just wish things were different i cry all the time and he sees it hell ask what wrong i say nothing of course but deep down inside my heart is breaking and it sux! Im moving out for the 3rd time and I fear I am making a mistake, that I may lose him forever, but at the time it feels right, but after talking it doesnt but I already have the place took $ out of as a loan on my 401k but I didnt sign the lease and I know my friends would say Im being stupid for staying. One of those areas is the insular a brain region that determines the intensity of an emotion and how strongly we take it to be associated with what we perceive (in this case, the person). Ive been drinking a lot and feeling so sad and overall not ok. Is there anyway that the relationship could work again and if so how? My continued sub conscience acts of control had pushed her further and further away, coupled with my own depression about where I was in life with my career. And you say you have a man you love and a man that loves you than he is going to be there to support you in anyway he can until you find your stride again. On the Saturdays I worked hed be calling her; accidently meeting up for a milkshake or coffee. He said he wasnt going to ever speak to her and he wanted to make things right. I have a degree in psychology and I cant figure this mess out! It was within the group. Started doing activities with them and really enjoying myself. I had been hoping we would push the relationship a step further by seeing each other more, but she has two kids and a busy job and I travel for work about 10 days a month. Love and hate are important human affects that are of long-standing interest in psychology. Hi Dr. Deb, 15 First Date Ideas Despite this similarity, the two seem like polar opposites. I def didnt cheat its was just emotional hurt. Last night I had to go into work at 4am and I wanted him to lay with my until i fell asleep. We had loaned her our 1 vehicle to her in the interim so that her mother & step-father could use her car. He met me at my car door. i feel like im cheating him of his 20s or that im not good enough and am way too old for him. The aim is to show that you are fun to be with and that you know how to have a good time. If it was not fear but your own low self esteem, then THAT is what you need to work on in therapy. She has felt like this for about 3 years but was afraid to tell me. Anyway, I would file an order on him and get him out my home. We live in the south & his mother/my mother are very submissive women. I am a highly responsible person who took care of my husband all this time, etc. 4. I had been texting him now I am not going to. He started ignoring me and the more I tried to love him he pushed me away. I was so surprised how hard she was to convince that I wanted her. My best friend fell in love with me 2 years ago and I could not say yes then since I was moving on from another guy. I mean three months ago. Someone help :(. I made him tell his parents & called the wedding offso therefore we purchased a very nice home in April which we were supposed to be married prior to moving into our home but instead we married in May making the house not marital property. We also had dinner with his sisters and her(the same one he wrote) and I didnt even know she was an ex. Weve both have hurt each other emotionally and theres always tension between us. His/her awakening to the fact that you have been deeply wounded in the relationship, and that you need to heal, will dawn on him/her slowly. But he made it all about him and so are you now, too. Right before she told me of her lack of feelings, I began taking an active approach in things like my career and relationship, after all, my life is in my control, but it was too little too late. My 9 year old son is devastated. her but as time went on the love she had for me During our time I have had a rough time dealing with his mom and his ex wife. The best relationships are made with two people who are secure within themselves. Samara, of COURSE he fell out of love. Otherwise he will see you playing games. we were so happy, no coldness at all, though he keeps on posting confusing statuses on fb like, here i am waiting i have to leave soon, and if you risk nothing you will risk everything and so on. He needs professional help as well as AA meetings. The first among the 15 ideas for a perfect first date is to plan a place where you both will be comfortable He deleted mine too. In a messy breakup, it's not uncommon for a person to say things they don't mean, to become incredibly hostile, and to . In fact, please seek a person with a degree in Marriage & Family Therapy. I wish it were easier than that. Im im a relationship for 2 years now. I was insensitive to his struggles and feelings. Just expressing how badly you feel will not help you learn exactly what to do to get out of the bad place your feelings are in. Are your feelings really love or fear of loss? But before she passed out I asked who the heck was the guy?. or what else we can do if we are not together and living in separated stated . am i right to feel confused? But since wed thought about it I figured it couldnt hurt to try. It looks like this guy is having fun seeing how many women he can keep on the side. You can read my book on my website is a description of it [drdeb.com] but the key is to understand your own family and how their behavior influenced you so you know exactly what to avoid when the situations come up in your life. Hi Mark Depression I put her threw. how to love innocently? I fear that if this anxiety continues, I will never have the chance to try to rebuild my marriage because at this point, all I feel is fear. Why did you do it? Id like to hear your take on my situation. At the time I wanted to get married, he didnt. I didnt want to be like my father and since I finally realized what I was doing, I was able to significantly control my anger from then onward. Im just ready to move on but I really really do love him. She actually texted me yesterday (I havent responded) and partly came clean on why we broke up. After coming off a day of not really talking to each other, she come home and said she doesnt feel the same way as she did when we first started going out and that she feels Im holding her back. Meanwhile, yes, you should both get counseling to help this process. But honestly knowing that hes not here and that hes probably most likely in jail Im not stressed. Recently I told him that I wasnt emotionally or mentally ready to get married at this time-I know it broke his heart and it broke mine too. I started to distrust my new partner and it snowballed. :(. I resent him to the point where Im losing the love I have for him and I cant help it. I dont want this to be the end of us. I expected that after three years, and his wrongdoing, that he would be a little more apt to showing me that he truly does want to be with me but it seems like he doesnt. I believe we both want the same thing which is to be together, and be happy together, but i dont know how to get there.. Hate can serve to preserve the closeness of a relationship. I would never never hit anyone or had cheated but all this had made her feel scared of me. But I feel I dont have the strength to. He says he is in love with me. When he touched me I felt disgusted and thought how can this man possibly love me. When you get on a plane, they tell you, if youre traveling w a child and the O2 needs to come down, put it on yourself first or you will pass out and then you and the child will lose oxygen. Love can turn to hate in a matter of minutes. I feel like you could have summed this up by saying this: Shes a few years younger. I need help. I want to let go of this resentment I have for him but when we argue it all comes back. Get professional help. You must be patient, toowith your spouse and with yourself. A year later, she accuses him of being the father of her 3 year old daughter, and I find out that they have been seeing each other for 2 weeks and that he may be the father. He is always right but we have been talking since May 2 of this yr as I called and wished him a Happy Birthday but I also wanted to apologize for my own personal wrongdoing because I moved on to another guy/guys while we were seperated. there was Cheating,verbal abuse, drug use, and been an absent and irresponsable father. You dont need that. Although we interacted. He left again the following week and we didnt talk again. I see absolutely no reason to keep up conversation with her anymore. I used it on my girlfriend for 9 months. His wife to this day doesnt know anything! I dont think you can talk someone into loving you or reason with someone to have feelings for you. i think i was under the impression i was relieving the pressure from my partner and supporting/helping.i fear i did wrong, she passed sadly 3 days after my partners birthday just before Christmas 2014, and January 1st he said i no longer love you. For me, that was the fundamental basis of our relationship. That I needed to know my status with her cus i feel like Im being used by her and baby father to takecare of their things. Be sure to check the credentials of your therapist. Good luck. The emotional abuse began pretty much immediately. Now, after apologies and finally making a date to meet (we havent met yet by the way but I feel she is someone I always have wanted) and trying everything to make it right she CONTINUES TO SAY I DONT GET IT. Ever since we had that fall out hes like a changed man. It outlined all of his feelings around the betrayal, even acknowledgement of his part in rejecting me. Promises wouldnt be enough. Will he ever talk to me again. This was all her idea.) . Im not sure about this guy.. Hi Serena Is it better to be unhappy and rich or happy and poor? Hes been begging for 2 wees now. The whole idea of being open has been closed completely after this. Did I miss her within the 9 months? My girlfriend always told me that what I played and painted was beautiful but I still lacked contentment in my life. Luckily, there are clear similarities and differences between these two types of dynamics. He says that I dont do anything for his to trust me, what am I suppose to do? What did you learn in your counseling? We havent talked since mid-January. Can you get him to see a therapist? And then HE cheated and he doesnt want to give YOU another chance??? Our family. I have been told to maybe take a break and talk to a therapist. But people dont act like that out of the clear blue for no reason. where you getting the sweet stuff? After that we talked 3 or 4 times (I contacted him Via Msn as usual and he answers immediately). I have started therapy for addictions and am in the first month of a 3 month program. Blame? actually i tried talking to him but hes talking to me very and replying to me . Its almost like Im forcing myself to for him.. And it sucks cause I know he deserves better, But I dont want to loose my family cause my kids love us together and I know how a divorce can ruin everything I just dont know what to do. Well during one argument, he asks me whos thing was bigger. Hisin this context refers to her baby father. Actually, that is the good part. She moved out with her sister and from being traumatized, fell immediately out of love with me. After i realized what ive done i closed my fb profile and told her what i had done, she was furious with me. Its precisely when we DONT know someone very well that we allow our imaginations to fill in the blanks. i was seeing a counselor but found it of no help at all. i read where you say its called patient giving i understand what your saying and what needs to be done my only concern is how long should you keep trying patient giving before you realize its not going to work and your marriage is going to get back to going the right direction, ive been married for 6 years and off and on weve had issues but it hasnt been til the pat year that my husband has told me once he wanted a divorce but never went throught with it we patched thigns up we never seperated but about two weeks ago he sat me down and told me about the issue were having now and he said i am willing to give you one last chance and work on our marriage, but if it happenss again hes done now neither one of use has cheated its has nothing to do with that, he got very upset and angry at something i said, he has that right to be mad i understand but he tells me he wants to give me another chance but tells someone else he doesnt want to so i want to make my marriage work and prove to my husband its not him thats the problem it never has been he hasnt told me he doesnt love me anymore, so i am confused on how long should i try and mend the bond before i finally say i cant do this anymore and tell him ive tried to fix this issue but i cant do it anymore, i want to fix it but i just dont know how long i should before it starts to get better if it even does get better if you understand what i am asking. One day we had a short argument. Sitting at a table in our garden with every candle lit & blinking invitingly; scattered around our garden table; sharing a bottle of wine together & a take-out pizza whilst writing our vows & dreams to each other on a note-pad over ice-cream & hot coffee .. would have been magical. .should i just let him go, i told him if he wants he can just leave.Knowing that I would be so lost.i still would let him go to have his happiness. Hello Dr Deb, id like to tell you about my problem, ive bin in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years, it had a lot of ups and downs, at one point she started distancing her self from me, with out telling me why. If this relationship is important to you, you really need to do what the 12 step people recommend: A fearless moral inventory. And he said he didnt blame me if I never wanted to talk to him again. So I thought maybe hes right. I feel a lot of my bad habits of being stubborn or misunderstanding have gone and I have beem rewarded with my efforts through this tough time by a husband who tells me I look prettier every passing day. But the second time, after seeing him for only 3 days and him leaving again for the job, I blew up over the phone with him. I am glad I came across this thread because I am having trouble fully trusting my boyfriend again. hi dr . I HAVE disrespected him, and isolated myself from him because I KNEW he was doing something, with someone on the side. Its just the knowing he doesnt really like them as much that was making me feel guilty. utterly devastated (UK). After all, you've invested a lot of time and resources in your marriage. He was mad and disappointed that I went alone. Told him. Now she has shut down and has said it can NEVER be the same. This other lady is not an issue as she and I are friends and she js currently with her husband in another country. This is a terribly sad and painful experience in your life that will take time to heal from. And yet I honestly feel he is a remarkable man, and I have seen him change some of his behaviours. 12: Ask her if shes willing to go ice skating with you I did not go into a fit of rage like I did for the prior incident. Do you think there is hope for a reinvented lonesome cowboy of New Orleans? Hell take me out on dates, cook me dinner, and most importantly, putting up with me no matter how much I seem to push him away. All these need to heal. I ended up finding out that she was still cheating on me with her cheating lover even after our first confrontation. Sign up and Get Listed. I come to you with a broken heart and an open mind. But not a psychodynamic type as that therapy is a long-term deal. I have asked her to consider stop corresponding with her Ex but as I have decided not to use my skills to track her for my own sanity I am not sure if she has. He became obsessed almost addicted to speaking to her. He gave me a right to go to Mpumalanga if I want to and I never really bothered as I trusted him. Hi Dr Deb. What can I do to leave the past in the past? I was vulnerable I wanted to work things out and I almost felt at fault. Duh, but I Needed Someone To Be there to complain to which I did. bungalowstreet. I got angry because to me it felt like he was letting her win and he finally said I dont need you to agree with me, I just need you to support me. He felt neglected by me and thinks it may be too late to work out any issues. Then I would take that information and have a heart to heart talk about your sex life with your husband and where you want to go. She made her share of mistakes like hiding conversations with exes and not wanting to be close in front of exes, but I know at this point that she has always had issues with anxiety and that nothing shady was going on. I lied. He loves me and wont say leave or hes done. I told him that I may have just used him for sex but I am finding that I do still care very much for him & I never treated him with respect or appreciation. A few years ago I spent a year abroadwe still tried to maintain the relationship although I didnt put much effort into it due to my then selfish nature. On the back of the first drunken night I went to therapy, but I dont feel any real improvement in myself. I have three. Hi Uncertain, I do love her still but I am tired of back and forth. Open with his communication with her. Check out this site, my site, drdeb.com, and the aamft. Your actions in betraying were not giving, not even to yourself. And through out the summer I felt our communication was extremely poor and at times felt like he was ignoring me and didnt really care for me. To be with her again cuz I dont believe that luck. Though it was something they used to do before he met me. I thought she would learn few lesson if I ignore her for some time. I was very hurt and confused but after long talks we decided to stay together and move with his parents to a new state, thousands of miles away from my family. They secretly stayed in contact for a while longer. He became heartless in my eyes and didnt think about my feelings or anything I feel disrespected and stupid. Hi Beth, "They say a good love is one that sits you down, gives you a drink of water, and pats you on top of the head. What should i do? If your therapist is not able to move from couples therapy to individual with you to help you with how you have cut off your feelings, that is a problem. Meanwhile, one day a few months ago (I think while at therapy) she ran into a friend she hadnt seen since before we married. He ended up hooking up with another girl twice. I was so in love with this man, more so than I was with my husband. Also,why wont he give us a chance and at least try. Ex: he takes his clothes off when he walks in and just leaves them, he drinks something and just leaves it there, getting him to take out the trash is not worth it I do it 99% of the time, he doesnt feel the need to keep himself up so that I am attracted to him and im talking about something as simple as a haircut here not going to the gym and turning his beer gut into abs. He still doesnt see him doing anything wrong by spending all his time with his female friend. But he told her every little detail about me and our marriage. I am trying my absolute best to save my relationship. Not until we can start counseling and actually get some help with our relationship. 3 years ago when we first began to get to know each other, he hurt me really bad. Few days later, she updated her facebook status saying papi got me like (with love signs). Im stuck cause Im so in love with this man and I wont our marriage to be fixed. Inge van der Post Recommends: 1. we have a beautiful home thats half way paid for outright, love, attraction, everything? He is angry with me will not talk to me. what will him interested on me again ?what kind of conversation i should have with him over the phone . He doesnt work I work 50 hrs + a week and take care of 3 kids. (He has never been fully emotionally present because of his PTSD). My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 yrs and we recently just parted ways in the past 4 days. I was in deep depression of my finances, my anger has been a problem I had lost my licence, I lost my job I had which loved. please, Hello, I have been in a relationship for five years with a man who has been my best friend for over a decade. Is this a bad habit he picked up from going with the wrong friends? Then, he would still defend himself and bring up how HE was hurt when I left to Peru. I never felt safe and I never felt grounded. And Im constantly irritated by him, which in turn makes me super mean. Well, you CAN create a new relationship just by going back and starting over. I explained that it was because it happened without him asking that he thought it might upset me, and at no point did he stop and put me in front of his desire at the time. But she is giving me an ultimatum I have to pick. Were on the same team!! Thats real love. Cater to him and perhaps that will show him that you are not selfish after all. He had been texting and flirting with other women via social media. Me and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship we been together for a year and a month and sometimes i ask myself am i losing feelings for her bc during the summer one day i got this weird feeling in my chest and it wasnt a good feeling at all it made me question myself and my relationship bc i told my gf i think im losing feelings bc the feeling didnt seem to go away and i felt really bad cause i think i hurt her .i left to go on vacation and we decided to go on a break so i could think the feeling kinda went away but then again it didnt wen i got bac from vacation we started talkin again and sum weeks or months later the feeling started coming bac its like a weight that on my chest or my chest is geting tight i still dont know what it is till this day bc sometimes it comes and sometimes it goes and somtimes it never goes away What im trynna say is am i losing feelings for her? He also has a habitat of accusing me of cheating which ive never done or given him a reason to be that way we also fight over that. You will not succeed against the drugs. He stated he did it for emotional comfort. We havent talked too often, but these things take time. He still said he loves me, but he enjoys spending time with her. But in our letters, my love grew. I have tried to reassure her by telling her I would never bring this issue up again. Thanks. We both have feillings for one another. This carried on for around 6 months, until the silly arguments got too much for him and he walked away. Until recently, I asked my guy friend to accompany me in choosing a computer since I dont know anything about technology. He has stated emphatically that it is over. Keep things fresh and exciting by having a theme for your first date. He also told me I didnt respect him,appreciate him, and I treated him like a child. Within 4 years of arrival I caught my husband sitting in a parked car, kissing a 15 year-old neighbor whose family we had befriended. Hi Sue#1 So a friday he went to see her at the hospital not letting me go with him, he stayed the night in the hospital with her and that saturday made plans for him and i to go out to dinner & movie. In turn, your spouse will be able to talk about his/her dawning awareness of his/her past selfishness and hurtfulness and any regrets felt over them. So my girlfriend got her license taken away because of an auto incident. To change the person you are, you would have to stop the abusive behavior but also stop the needy and victim feelings that underlie it. Weve been having problems for the last year or more. I was ignoring her and thinking that she just needed to grow up and be a stronger woman! I love. I forgave him after some days, tried to work at it again. One of those day in October lady yr, the contractor who supposedly fixing the place came with her to my house to pick me up for shopping more did for her place. That is what you need. as of now everything I say she says she doesnt want to talk until I get it. I know I have to move on though. With the degree of insight you already have and the motivation that I believe you also have, your whole entire therapy process should be under a year, maybe even six months of effort. He keeps on saying I feel empty inside because you have hurt me before. ever since we found out her mom was moving, her attitude has changed very drastically in the sense where I can tell something is bothering her. See, you said it yourself: You went into the idea for fun. I was never physically abusive but I was very emotionally and mentally abusive towards me ex. I know Im going to have to take the initiative and hopefully hell see how hard Im trying and follow suit. I feel the same. As a result, lied and deceived me over the last 5 years. I knew that. Hi Tim Im def try to earn his trust back. it didnt help. He cares about me but I have pushed him away so many times that the love is gone. I wanted my boyfriend to comfort me but since he didnt know what to do and I didnt tell him what I wanted things got bad. The way I used to treat him like a king. The problem is I feel like a trauma victim having lived with him. But it dont know what to do. so you shouldnt to bother with sluggish net relationship. Im not sure that it is right of you to expect yourself to sweep this dust under the carpet. But He does that for this co worker and they talk on the phone throughout the day for 2 to 3hrs. His choice of comfort is political views & newsworthy discussions. I should add that, if he was horny he could have called me instead. Some examples might help. My family loves her and still dont know were apart. I was hurt. The one thing I wish I could change about him is his inability towards insight. I dont know how to get past this second betrayal so soon on the heals of the first. People often dont have pride or self-esteem or confidence because of the way they were treated in childhood and they carry that with them. Soon, my wifes traumatic childhood experiences really start coming to the surface and depression worsens, she starts seeing a therapist and taking medication. It feels good to let them know you care and love them, but it will do the complete opposite and push them away. What kind of man he is?? Thousands of questions fill the mind of a woman who has been raped by the man of her affections. I low key want to move on, away from him. Your spouse opens the door to intimacy when you know that he/she has heard you. I hope that at some pointment she will want to come with me to these so that we can work on things together. 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